i love Steve, he’s funny and a good writer. When on the Trya Banks show (old but good episode, one of the very few good episodes but i digress), Steve Harvey talks about stuff and how women can interpret men the right way.

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There’s this 90 day probation period, 90 days to give him “benefits”. Benefits being anything you feel is a benefit or blessing for you to give to him, whether it be sex, time, or energy or a deeper piece of you. Harvey says that there are a few questions a woman needs to ask about her man within the first date just so you can gauge him:

What are his short term goals/long term goals: the reason being that you need to know that this man has a plan. What you want to do in a month is far different from what you want to do in a year. if that man DOESN’T have a plan, then why the hell would you attach yourself to that charity case? it’s your RIGHT to know what your bringing yourself into and if you want to invest, time, money, love into that situation.

What is your relationship with your mother/how do you feel about kids and God: if a man does not believe in God, where is his moral barometer? Nowhere; get rid of him. A man’s relationship with his mother tells you how he respects women, watch that relationship carefully. if you ask a man how he feels about kids and he doesn’t like them, YOU CAN’T CHANGE HIM. Run for the hills if you want babies.

Then the next questions you ask after dating for a while are: 

1. what do you think of me: a man loves to talk, he’ll tell you immediatly what he thinks of you so listen to him.

and then when he’s done throw this one at him:

2. how do you feel about me: how a man feels and thinks about you if different from what we think of you. if a man can’t say how he feels and if it’s the same as how he thinks, be wary.

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There’s this thing called the 3p’s. The 3p’s are the way men express love and these p’s are: profess, provide and protect

Profess: if a man loves you, he will tell anybody that we love you. Within 6 months of going out with a man he will assign you a title because that’s how they lay claim. if a man says your his friend after 6 months, RUN.

Provide: what ever a man’s means and money level, he will do anything and everything for you if he can, IF he loves you.

Protect: no one will ever talk bad about you or the kids because men will do anything to protect and keep claim of something they love.

“if a man tells you he loves you without those three things in combo, he doesn’t love you.”

Harvey says one thing that is very important to remember:

you’ve never seen a man cross a room for a woman’s brain: it’s controversial but true.

you must look “shiny”, shiny as in look good, dress up, be pretty. Men love shiny things. Men won’t cross a room for a brain, but they’ll cross for shininess and confidence.

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And there you go lol. read his book, “Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man”.